Bounce back from Rejection

Been on an interview, didn’t get it? Even though you might have done everything right, technically. But it just didn’t translate on the day?

Now you might be left feeling disheartened and frustrated. You have my sympathy, and that of all the other job hunters.

Best suggestion, call and ask for feedback. A good employer will gladly offer constructive pointers. Highlight any gaps in requirements they were prioritising, or what intangibles were missing. You should then realise it was purely a difference in experience or skills, as is often the case.

As a recruiter, when candidates have similar strengths, one is chosen over the over due to the details that one offered but the other didn’t. For example, one asked lots of questions and had a genuinely conveyed interest in the company. One might have done great research which allowed them to talk confidently about the company history. Confidence is key. If you don’t sound like you believe what you are saying, then you are doing yourself a great disservice.

If they are not responsive to the request for feedback, don’t dwell on it too long. Just long enough to objectively critique your own performance.

If you were hideously late, or couldn’t perform a skills test very well, then at least you might be able to surmise the reasons.

But if you did a great interview, answered questions thoroughly, discussed all your strengths and gave strong examples of your relevant experience. Then feel proud of yourself. Sounds like you did all you could do.

Having been on at least a hundred interviews myself (purely for research purposes obviously) I can usually tell when I’ve fluffed an answer, made a bad impression. So in most cases I can guess why I was popped in the “No” pile.

Then there are those interviews where you feel like it went well. You manage to build a rapport with the interviewer, answered the questions like a jedi-master but you still didn’t get the gig..?

Those days, you really need a bit of introspection. Ask yourself, “what could I have done better?”

Process the defeat, then move on.

Never assume, they just didn’t like you, or it was anything personal. One, because usually it isn’t. And two, it cheats you out of having to ask yourself difficult and searching questions.

Some inexperienced managers, may be swayed by “the liking effect” or “halo and horns” tendency. But that will never be something you can control, so don’t concern yourself with it.

After you’ve gained some level of usable data that will benefit you next time, then build on the positives. Go back to base and reassess your CV, look at your skills, remember your achievements, look at how you pitch and sell them in interview.

Keep refining, that is the key message.

This reflective mood may even lead you to reassess your whole plan. Look at alternative directions, new paths and options. Now is a great time to really think about what makes you happy, and what dreams are still waiting to be pursued.

Stay focused, don’t get lost in the indecision, just be open to suggestion. Consider all offers and leads if they appeal.

You’ve only failed, if you’ve not reflected or learned anything from a knock-back.

And should you really be perceiving that as a defeat? There’s that old chestnut that it obviously “just wasn’t meant to be.” Often, we all hope something bigger and better will come along, and make us glad we didn’t get that job after all.

It might be that you didn’t get the job you went for, but a few months later they call you for an alternative role that they think you’d be perfect for.

These miracles do happen! Really! So roll with the punches, learn and evolve.

Aim to get paid for doing something you love. Look for that, and don’t stop chasing it.

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